The guide

Your guide to the lifestyle

Practical, respectful and non-judgemental, whether you are curious or experienced.

A calm, clear introduction to the lifestyle, the language people use and the different ways couples choose to take part.

How to talk it through, agree your boundaries and take relaxed, sensible first steps together.

No means no, respect comes first and discretion is everything. The unwritten rules, written down.

The different kinds of venue, what to wear and what really happens on a typical night out.

Sexual health, protecting your privacy, meeting new people sensibly and the red flags worth knowing.

How singles fit into the lifestyle, why some nights are restricted and how to be a welcome guest.

Straight answers to the questions newcomers ask most often.

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